Breaking the silence: why men’s mental health matters
Many men face barriers to addressing mental health concerns, often shaped by longstanding social expectations and personal responsibilities. The Alabama Department of Public Health recently shared several reasons why some men hesitate to seek support. In recognition of Men’s Mental Health Awareness Month, Jared Ball, MPH, Forge AHEAD program evaluator, and Carol Agomo, Ph.D., Forge AHEAD program director for community outreach and engagement in Alabama, explore these challenges and offer practical, respectful approaches to address them.
Jared Ball, MPH, Forge AHEAD program evaluator
Carol Agomo, Ph.D., Forge AHEAD program director for community outreach and engagement in Alabama
“I’ve learned to deal with it.”
Men often balance work, family, and caregiving responsibilities without addressing their own well-being. This can lead to increased stress and decreased capacity to manage daily demands. Taking time for mental health is not a luxury. It is a foundation for sustainable caregiving and personal health.
“Take some time for yourself to address your mental health needs. You shouldn’t expect perfection every day – your best effort will look different from some days than others. When I worked in palliative care, the fellowship program built in self-care workshops each semester for the fellows. The rationale: if you’re not well, you cannot fully provide adequate care to someone else. Even setting aside 15 to 30 minutes a few times a week for something that helps you recharge—whether that’s a walk, a hobby, or a self-care session—can make a real difference.””
-Jared Ball
“I do not want to burden anyone.”
Men may hesitate to share their experiences out of respect for others’ time or emotional capacity. However, social connection is essential to mental health. Building a small network of trusted individuals, such as a former coworker, a close friend, or a family member, can create space for healthy conversations.
“Build your support cabinet. Identify two or three people you trust—friends from college, a colleague, a sibling—and let them know you might reach out if things get heavy. It’s also helpful to consider counseling. Therapists offer a neutral, supportive space with tools that can complement what friends and family provide.”
-Carol Agomo
“I feel embarrassed” or “There is stigma around this topic.”
Mental health concerns are medical issues, similar to heart conditions or diabetes. Seeking support should be seen as a responsible health decision. Increasing awareness and encouraging open conversations helps reduce stigma and improve outcomes.
“For the men in your life, consider this: strength doesn’t have to mean silence. I believe strength can also mean being willing to face what’s difficult, even when that takes more courage than keeping quiet.”
-Jared Ball
“I do not want to admit I need help” or “I don’t want to appear weak.”
Acknowledging challenges is a sign of self-awareness and resilience. Many men are socialized to value self-reliance, but collaboration and support are also strengths. Growth and connection begin when individuals feel safe to share their experiences.
“Let’s think differently about what it means to be tough. To me, it’s not about pretending everything is fine. It’s about having the honesty and self-respect to speak up when it’s not.”
-Carol Agomo
“I have no one to talk to.”
Feelings of isolation are serious and can increase mental health risks. If you do not currently have someone to talk to, resources are available. Peer support groups, community health organizations, and faith-based initiatives often offer confidential and accessible avenues for connection.
“Let’s continue to show up for the men in our lives. No one should feel alone in navigating mental health. Remind the people you care about that they matter and that support is always within reach.”
-Jared Ball
“As women, daughters, partners, friends, and colleagues, we often witness the emotional load men carry, sometimes without ever speaking about it. This month, let’s move away from the idea that silence equals strength. Mental health is just as important as physical health. Each of us can help create an environment where openness is encouraged, support is available, and seeking help is seen as a basic part of wellness, not a weakness.”
-Carol Agomo
“I do not want to admit I need help” or “I don’t want to appear weak.”
Acknowledging challenges is a sign of self-awareness and resilience. Many men are socialized to value self-reliance, but collaboration and support are also strengths. Growth and connection begin when individuals feel safe to share their experiences.
Why this matters
Men’s mental health influences families, workplaces, and communities. Addressing it is essential for promoting holistic public health. During Men’s Mental Health Awareness Month, we can each take part by encouraging conversations, listening without judgment, and sharing resources that foster well-being.
Supporting mental health is not about fixing anyone. It is about creating environments where individuals feel heard, valued, and equipped to seek care when needed.
